It doesnít matter if youíre male or female ñ if youíve just split up from your significant other the last thing you want is mutual friends getting involved.
Mutual friends tend to get involved when they have either one of two agendaís.
Driving a Wedge:
Driving a wedge between the both of you is unfortunately what some mutual friends will do after your relationship has ended. They may have the best will in the world but ultimately when they start getting involved with loose talk and opinion it can make getting back with your ex really difficult.
If this has happened to you, you need to nip it in the bud very quickly. How? By making sure everyone knows youíre doing fine ñ even if youíre not. The worst thing that can happen is that your mutual friends pass on the news that youíre wallowing in pity. This does not look positive at all.
Getting you back together:
The flip side of the coin is when your mutual friends try and get you back together with your ex. This may seem like a great idea but actually it can be a big pain for you as you try your hardest to make sense of the split; and identify what you need to do on a personal level to strengthen yourself in order to move forward.
Some friends may tell you that they only have your best interests at heart, but actually they donít. They simply donít like dealing with two different sets of friends and they feel somehow disloyal if they speak to one and not the other.
The simple fact is that they can speak to both you and your ex and not feel theyíre taking sides, but you may have to let them know that in the very beginning.
